What have we done, girls?

Out in a diner, afterhour with a coworker. "I wanna tell you something," he said. Sure, I told him, too preoccupied with my slice of pizza to notice. "I'm single parenting now," he made it sounds like a normal conversation, like talking about tomorrow's schedule.

I was choked in my pizza. My first reaction was, "No, no, not you too!"

And there unrolled the story, of infidelity. The third time I heard in two years. They were similar, an unsatisfied wife/girlfriend want something and someone more. That they were tempted by a guy at work. A guy who apparently has more to offer than their husband/boyfriend.

And these guys, I can't help to noticed, are great guys. The kind you want to marry but apparently, not to grow old with. These are the guys you single women desperately searched high and low among all your complaints, "all guys are jerks". These are not jerks. But they got dumped, for being 'boring'.

So what is it, ladies? Are we adventurous now? So adventurous that you'd dumped your perfect husband for some-guy-at-work? For a guy, who perfectly aware that you were taken but still sleep with you anyway?

I have to wonder, ladies, what is happening to us? Whatever happen to being loyal, whatever happen to commitment? Are they so worthless now that you easily threw them out the window just for some-guy-at-work who doesn't respect it? They knew you were taken, they've met your husband.

What's going on, I wonder. Are we being so independent and sexy and brave and disrespectful of a spouse who has done everything just to keep the family together? Are we really capable of being mean now, sneaking around behind our guy just for some fun fucking? Are we really so heartless that when our guys are working, we just go out and have fun and hurting our supposedly significant others?

I like the idea of independent woman. Of brave woman. Of fun fearless females like a slogan for some girly magazines. I just don't like the idea of being mean and thoughtless and hurtful to those people who love us truly. Call me old fashioned, but I really hope people are still nice to each other. I don't hate the idea of you fall out of love and fall in love with other guy, just don't hurt your spouse. You have no idea how devastating is that. Be nice, be considerate. We are all still human, right?